Living for You.

You get to crossroads in life and you need to make a conscious decision to live for yourself and stop craving the validation of others. You need to ask yourself ‘What happens when this person isn’t in my life anymore?’ What would you do with the life choices you made trying to keep that person happy? Nothing. You’re stuck with them. They become your own problem because you didn’t make them for yourself. It’s really scary but it doesn’t have to be. Live for yourself. Not asking you to be self-centered but sometimes, you need to love yourself enough to put yourself first and make decisions you can stand behind in the long run because the people that really love and care about you will always be there, they won’t judge you, they’d support you and your life choices because your happiness is more important to them than what society thinks.

Greener pastures?

What’s the ideology behind greener pastures? What’s really the reason why people feel they have to change environments to get what they’re really searching for? Is it all in the mind? Maybe there’s more to it.

With business growth and success, I believe the environment you’re in can strongly affect you. This could be positive or negative. The negatives can push you to want to find greener pastures. As long as you’re making the right decisions and going in the right direction, that’s great.

When we step into the territory of relationships, it’s a different ball game. When certain people see you in a healthy relationship, they decide it’s time to play mind games. They’re so quick to tell you how much better they’d be as your partner and reasons why you should step out of your relationship. Honestly, no relationship is perfect. You’d have ups and downs but you need to understand that feelings don’t change because there’s a storm. If that happens, maybe they weren’t actually there in the first place. Everyone has demons and that person planting doubts in your mind might have greater demons than what you’re dealing with in your current relationship. Don’t be too quick to step out. You might be looking across from your lawn and imagine the grass is greener on the other side but don’t forget the price of mowing and watering the lawn. The devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know. If you have someone that treats you right and is there for you when you need them, stay. We all have flaws, some more than others. Stick to what you know, maintain your lawn and your grass would get greener.

Decisions.

Life’s thrown so much at me in the past couple of weeks. It’s difficult to really make anything of the circumstances I’ve found myself in but everything’s had me on a roller coaster of emotions. I’m hanging in there but I have to make decisions. Life changing decisions. I have to decide to take control of my own destiny. It’s not the easiest thing to decide to live for yourself, live out your own dreams and not what a governing party has laid out for you in their mind or the dreams you’ve grown up to believe you should follow. 

 
Learning to stand on your own and chase your own dreams isn’t the easiest thing but it’ll be worth it in the end. We all claim to be independent but are we really? There’s a lot more to independence than we want to believe. Sometimes, we need to be opinionated- operative word being “sometimes“-. Being opinionated isn’t always the best thing cause you could come across as stuck up or pushy. Regardless, being a person with an opinion or a standing is really necessary in life.