Over the years, I’ve gathered that females have the tendency to hold on a little longer than the male gender. I’ve never understood why because I value my happiness too much to put it on the line for someone that wouldn’t do the same for me. I tend to remove myself from situations that make me unhappy because I’ve learned very quickly that life’s too short and you should take advantage of the little time you have. People let their insecurities force them into remaining in a loveless relationship. This shouldn’t be the case but sadly, it is most of the time. Some females aren’t confident in who they are, they’re never really sure of their ability to have a fresh start. Yes, you can do better. You can start all over. Don’t let the idea of being alone frighten you. Half the time, you need that alone time. You might have lost yourself trying to love another, you might have let someone else define you. You need to be alone to figure out who you are and what really makes you happy. Sometimes, we forget because someone has caused us so much pain and we’ve become accustomed to the lovelessness in a relationship. You can’t be the only one loving, you can’t be the only one fighting for a future. Someone once said to me “You can’t keep a man that doesn’t want to be kept”. You can convince yourself endlessly that he’ll come around but it won’t happen if he doesn’t want to. Break out of the loveless bond, find yourself again and definitely, the kind of love you deserve will come knocking.
You are on point. I am guilty of the same crime. I keep hearing voices saying to me, just run…you deserve better. I have to believe that I can do it because I dont need a ring to define me.
You do deserve better. All you need to do is believe in yourself and trust God.